When people are having an emotional affair it’s fair to say they are in denial about the situation. No one likes to think they are being unfaithful or that they’re the “bad guy” for doing the wrong thing in their relationship.
However, denial doesn’t change the fact that you may be having an emotional affair. Emotional affairs happen by accident 99% of the time. It’s different to a sexual affair that’s driven by a chemical reaction and physical attraction to someone.
An emotional affair takes longer to develop but it is a consistent effort by both people involved that keep it growing.
You may have a great partner already but somewhere along the line you got lonely or started talking with someone of the opposite sex until eventually, you realize you need to have this person in your life.
An emotional affair doesn’t mean that you want to have sex with this person either.
It means that you have created such a strong bond and connection with this person that you cannot go a day without thinking about them and ultimately needing to hear from them.
Even just a text from that person can change your whole mood.
Does this sound familiar?
So, now you know the signs of an emotional affair… do you think you’re having an emotional affair or you’re just friends?
Don’t fool yourself. If you’re having an emotional affair now you will take it to another level at some point. Maybe not with the same person but you will with someone because the more you confide in and spend time with someone other than your partner you’re teaching yourself to feel attracted to other people.
There will come a time when talking isn’t enough to fill the void. My advice is, if you’re in a relationship and having an emotional affair with someone you need to get real with yourself and own it.
Decide what you’re going to do about it. If you don’t know, talk to your partner about it because when they find out the truth chances are the decision will be made for you.
People fall in and out of love every day. No one likes to feel they are second best and no one likes to be the last to know what’s going on in their relationship.
If you’re having an emotional affair don’t think it’s a big secret either. People see it a mile away. So, do the right thing and end the emotional affair or end your relationship. You can’t have it both ways.
I know that sounds harsh but ultimately something has to give and it’s one of those relationships or it’s your sanity, the respect of family and friends, your work… everything comes at a cost.
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